14-04-2019 03:18 PM
Hi @Meowmy , I totally agree with you. Friendships are hard and with a mental illness it makes them even harder. That is why I value my forum friends on here so much more. I still know it is not the same as having those friendships in real life...
14-04-2019 03:24 PM
@Snowie @Not easy to get the appropriate distance right and feelings often can be confusing. With MI, hard to know if the other party would have much prejudice.
14-04-2019 03:31 PM
Since my mental illness I have lost lots of friendships. Not sure if it is them not knowing how to deal with me or me pushing people away. I seem to think it is the later. We certainly go into our own little bubble.
14-04-2019 03:34 PM
@Snowie @I did the same thing for twenty years. Lately I had been stable and contacted a few of them. Some of them quite happy to reconnect. So it may worth the efforts.That also seem to help my sense of loss too.
14-04-2019 03:39 PM
Glad you have contacted a few of them @Meowmy Hopefully you can have good and supporting friendships with them. Well done for reaching out to them
14-04-2019 09:34 PM
15-04-2019 09:31 AM
Yes, it's slow to try and reconnect. I think also you have to make a choice to walk away from a friendship vs staying and hoping people with make the effort to stay connected.
19-04-2019 10:39 AM
@Snowie I tried to reach out to a coworker whom I have worked with for six months. She is a single mum and asked me for some relationship issues. I offered to walk together during the Easter break, but she said she has to sort out her house. So may be next time. I am organizing a lunch with a few people I knew before my illness for in two weeks. So I feel a bit more connected.
Hope you feel better and enjoy some connections you like.
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