11-02-2019 12:52 PM
It sounds like you had a wonderful weekend away @eth So nice to be able to go somewhere to relax and wonderful that it was a clear night and you could see so many stars. Good luck at Bridge - hope you really enjoy it and don't feel too anxious being in a new group of people.
@CheerBear I have an image of a cheerbear with a sheepdog hair style and it made me giggle - hope your haircut is perfect and you feel a little better after having it cut.
@Adge Is your surgery this week? I know you have been waiting a long time for it so hoping it is so you can begin to heal nd be in less pain.
11-02-2019 01:00 PM - edited 11-02-2019 01:01 PM
I have an awesome hairdresser who has done it a few times and does it well @Zoe7 so it feels great thanks (and I think looks better than the sheepdog look I'd been going with 😆). She used a funky texturising spray which made a big difference and I learned how to make a sea salt one at home - yay👍
I was just about to wander to find a corner to ask how you're going and whether you've been chatting with friend again?
11-02-2019 01:17 PM
No chatting with friend for a couple of days @CheerBear He had an open home on Saturday and sold his house on the same day so he is pretty busy getting things orgnaised for all that. I am not too fussed to be honest - I know his plan was to go travelling when he sold his house but I suspect that won't happen straight away as he has sold his house so quickly. Don't know what his plans may be now but I am sure he will tell me in time. It does feel like we have become more distant of late - I know we both have a lot going on and I certainly don't have the time I did have (or the energy) for that same interaction that we were having. Maybe this is a good thing though - especially if he is going to go away soon. Mixed feelings on it all but the tricky is still there and I don't think that is something I can get over - it will work out as it does I suppose!
11-02-2019 01:30 PM
11-02-2019 01:39 PM
He only had in on the market for a few days and it was the first open house so it did sell super quickly @CheerBear I can imagine there is a lot he now has to do. I know he has been selling off most of his music equipment over the last couple of months but there is still a lot he needs to sort out. He may need to find somewhere to live for a while before he travels - so much is up in the air atm and I am still trying to settle in at work so I feel like there is a big divide between where we both are at present. Nothing is easy is it!
11-02-2019 01:43 PM
11-02-2019 01:50 PM
The tricky has certainly taken up more headspace than I was prepared for @CheerBear and in a lot of ways has kept me from being in such regular contact with him. I think I have subconsciously pulled away a bit because of it and whilst he has been very open with me it definitely has altered my opinion of him. I want to be able to move past it but finding that difficult. I know you get that feeling too nd it is hard when you really do like everything else about that person - that one thing that is quite big is hard to get around though. It really does come down to what we both want and need out of this friendship and if in fact freindship is enough for both of us in this situation.
11-02-2019 01:59 PM
Hi @Zoe7 Thanks for asking.
How have you been?
I still have a few weeks to wait, yet for my surgery.
It's booked for 6th of March (a Wednesday), hopefully they don't change that date (as hospitals do).
My pre-surgery medical assessment is on 28th of February (a Thursday) - that goes for 2 hours.
That's when they examine every health implication (aspect) - & I have to talk to the Anaesthetist about being fine with all the anaesthetic drugs, etc.
I'm getting more anxious, leading up to it all - which is not helping.
This will be my 4th surgery, one that I should have never needed to have.
My recent (4) trips to A&E last December have made the process more triggering, & maybe more emotionally complicated.
11-02-2019 02:11 PM
You certainly have a lot of triggers there @Adge and it is no wonder you are feeling anxious about it all. Hopefully these next few weeks fly by but the anxiety will most likely still be there - that is quite natural though - it is no small thing you are going through and I very much feel for you in all this. It should never have come to this for you - this all should have been sorted a long time ago - especially as mistakes were made that have severely affected your ongoing health. I do hope this is tha last surgery that you will need to have and that it all goes well for you.
I am doing okay - it is a public holiday here today so back to work tomorrow then Wednesday off (that is my usual day off each week). Have normal appointments and DBT on Wednesday but I think this will be my last module so I can relax more on my day off. I have been unwell over the weekend and Toby was sick on Friday and Saturday as well so it has been a weekend of sleeping for both of us - we are both okay now - must have been a 24 hour thing for us both.
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