31-07-2019 07:50 AM
I'm long past the age where I should've learned to drive. I had a couple of lessons with my parents but have always been too afraid of not being able to know the physical dimensions of the car in relation to other objects/cars. Even in driving video games I use 3rd person view. I was always expecting self driving cars to come much quicker than they have - back when I was in highschool I thought we'd have them everywhere by 2010-2015 or so, so there was no real need for me to tackle it if I could hold out til then. Clearly that was too optimistic.
In the past I've always been able to make do with public transport or walking, but now not being able to drive is costing me the ability to apply for a really cool job. It really sucks. I know people say you get used to it and you will have a few accidents while you're learning and it's not a big deal... But it IS a big deal and I don't think it will ever not be a big deal.
It just really sucks. I wish I could get a motorbike license without needing a car license because motorbikes are so much less conceptually difficult in terms of the main thing that's causing my anxiety.
31-07-2019 08:00 AM
Hi @TheVorticon ,
It can be tricky to know the dimensions of vehicles, I struggle with this still and I've been driving for a long time. Do you have a friend that can teach you to drive on country roads or even a farm? I learnt on country roads and found it a lot less daunting than it would have been on busier roads or in a city. I don't think I'd have been able to cope with doing it that way.
If you take it slow and easy you shouldn't have any mishaps or accidents. It does get easier with practice like most things. Wishing you well.
31-07-2019 08:47 AM
31-07-2019 11:27 AM
@TheVorticon Hey TheVorticon my daughter has decided that driving is way to scary for her. She has chronic depression, aspergers and epilepsy and with all that going on she is just way too scared of hurting someone, having an accident .... just the responsibility of being on the road is too much for her to cope with. I just wanted to let you know that you are not alone. She depends upon me, walking or catching public transport and funny you should mention driverless cars she is depending upon those as well.
I cannot help but think that the people like yourself and my daughter probably would make the best drivers because you are so serious about the respnsibility of driving compared to other people who think it is their right. greenpeaxx
31-07-2019 11:56 AM
31-07-2019 04:07 PM
01-08-2019 12:38 AM
My mother learned to drive in her 50s and had over 20 years driving. She preferred an automatic.
Driving lessons with parents is usually extra tricky.
Having a sense of the spatial awareness is hard but you do gain it by making comparisons, with distances like keeping 3 car lengths (or white lines) apart on the freeway.
Some people never do it. Caution defintiely has its place in a world where most people go too fast.
01-08-2019 07:10 AM
01-08-2019 01:11 PM
@TheVorticon Good idea. Just notice distances when you are walking around. How far a car can be and still allow someone to turn etc ...
I know what you mean about about paying for mental health people. Takes a wallop out of the budget, even if there is medicare support. Only getting a social life recently.
01-08-2019 06:59 PM
I to have never learnt to drive. Held a learners back in the day. When it was a lot easier.
i felt the same about being in this contraption on the inside and the outside. Massive anxiety when made to do it. People get surprised when I say no drivers license. I put it down to my o.c.d interfering. And we have made it a lot harder for ourselves by not being able to drive. Who knows maybe one day you’ll surprise your self and just do it. Good luck.
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