hi everyone I'm a wife of 33years to a man I've known for a very long time he has a mental illness that is ptsd its not funny but sometimes I wonder can I cry or laugh with all the stress I feel the sadness of seeing an active person change and to try and understand everything that has happened to him its not just one thing its several incidents he gets a lot of help thank god but I feel I can't help him sometimes I feel that I can't say the right things sometimes does anyone feel this way and what do you do when you have these days of helplessness